This blog explores the many factors that contribute to growth and healing in the context of counseling and therapy.
This post explores Self-Sacrifice Schema and the impact of projective identification, particularly related to guilt and self-absorption, on ones tendency to be manipulated by others.
This post explores characteristics of individuals who have a tendency towards caregiving behaviors versus those who have a tendency towards narcissistic behaviors.
This post explores the way that boundary problems can impact the way that we are in relationship with others. Often boundary problems cause us to attempt to read other people’s minds in attempt to help them or put them first. Rather than asking them for their thoughts or feelings we can fall into the trap of protecting others rather than allowing them the opportunity to have their own experiences, identify their thoughts and feelings, and respond themselves. This inhibits others from growing in their ability to be vulnerable and prevents us from experiencing authentic intimacy with others.
This post explores the impact of the Early Maladaptive Schemas Self-Sacrifice and Emotional Inhibition in caregiver and codependent type individuals, often leading them to attract Narcissistic individuals and one-sided relationships and to feel unseen and unvalued.
This post explores the concept of Amygdala Hijacking, a physiological response to real or perceived threat, which results in loss of memory and impaired cognitive functioning. Amygdala Hijacking prevents productive conversation, impacting relationships negatively, as well is at the root of anxiety, panic disorders, and PTSD.
This post explores Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, or ACT Therapy, and how expectations and disappointments can keep us trapped in negative cycles and prevent us from embracing the life we have.
This post contrasts denial and ownership, as it pertains to self-awareness and growth, and explores relationship patterns of under-owning in narcissists and over-owning in caregivers.
This post explores narcissism and caregiving and how at the core of both is a difficulty with vulnerability and either creating boundaries with caregiving and respecting boundaries with narcissism. Post explores the giving-taking spectrum and how to go about growth from either end of the spectrum.