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Mind-Reading: An Ineffective Way to Address Needs
This post discusses the ineffectiveness of mind-reading in relationships and explores the impact of Self-Sacrificing, Narcsissistic, and Borderline Personality characteristics on relationships.
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Trauma and Parts of Self: Understanding Narcissistic and Self-Sacrificing Managers in Ourselves
This post explores conceptualization of Narcissistic and Self-Sacrificing or Caregiving relationship styles through the lens of Internal Family Systems and managing parts-of-self.
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Other-Directedness and Anxiety: Does Focusing on Others Help or Hurt?
This post explores the Other-Directedness domain schemas of Approval Seeking, Self-Sacrificing, and Subjugation and the impact that these schemas have on anxiety.
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Change: A Million Little Things
This blog explores the many factors that contribute to growth and healing in the context of counseling and therapy.
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Combat Dread and Anxiety by Combatting Vulnerability to Harm Schema
This post explores Vulnerability to Harm schema, which often plays an integral role in provoking feelings of anxiety and dread in clients with chronic experiences of anxiety. This post provides techniques for retraining the amygdala and overcoming irrational thoughts that provoke and maintain chronic anxiety.
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Running From Guilt and Shame Means Running Towards Narcissism and Caregiving
This post explores characteristics of individuals who have a tendency towards caregiving behaviors versus those who have a tendency towards narcissistic behaviors.
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Option and Obligation: Boundaries Mean Letting Others Choose
This post explores the way that boundary problems can impact the way that we are in relationship with others. Often boundary problems cause us to attempt to read other people’s minds in attempt to help them or put them first. Rather than asking them for their thoughts or feelings we can fall into the trap…